the past week has been a bit bumpy for my husband and i. petty disagreements and then one huge argument....it was intense. and it always gets even more intense because we are both stubborn....especially him! there are a lot of things that i want from him, like wearing his ring all the time, not just when we go out, or when he leaves the house, and he thinks that it's not a big deal. according to him, he is married to me and not the world. then i began to wonder, am i putting my image of what i think marriage is supposed to be first, instead of considering my partner's feelings? am i following tv stories subconsciously, or even perhaps the lives of characters in a novel? whatever it is, i know one thing is certain: marriage is not easy. it takes two completely devoted people, 24/7! that in itself sometimes seems overwhelming to me. yet on the same note, it is so amazingly beautiful. waking up every day and seeing that person. sharing with that person. having a family with that person. how beautiful is that?
prayer and really good friends who are also married is helping me. i am realizing that another thing that is hard for my husband is that he doesn't have an outlet yet. he doesn't have a close male friend here who he can share his thoughts with. i have tons of people who are so supportive and give caring, loving and objective advice. i am considering that too. in the meantime, i am going to not stress out about the ring and other little things. instead i am going to focus on all of the positive aspects of our relationship....according to the list i made, there happen to be more pros than cons.....that is a sign...and a good one at that!
peace & nappiness
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